Breaking the Good Girl Spell: Why Women Hold Back and How to Rise Anyway
Breaking the Good Girl Spell: Why Women Hold Back and How to Rise Anyway
By Hollie Eaddy C.Ht.
There’s a spell so many of us are cast under, and it doesn’t come with wands or potions.
It’s the “Good Girl” spell: Be nice. Be small. Don’t speak too loudly. Don’t want too much. Don’t rock the boat.
It starts early. A look of disapproval when we assert ourselves. A reward when we silence our needs. Praise when we please others even if it costs us ourselves.
And over time, it gets embedded. In our nervous system. In our relationships. In our voice.
But here’s the truth: You weren’t born to be agreeable.
You were born to be authentic.
To rise. To lead. To roar and rest in equal measure.
Why Do Women Hold Back?
Holding back often isn’t a weakness, it’s a form of protection.
It’s the subconscious saying, “Don’t get hurt. Don’t be too much. Don’t lose love.”
Women hold back because:
We've been conditioned to prioritize others.
We're afraid of being judged or rejected.
We've learned that strength = danger.
We’ve survived relationships that punished our power.
And yet, your voice still calls to be used.
Your truth still pulses in your chest.
How Hypnotherapy Helps Break the Spell
Hypnotherapy goes to the root—the subconscious mind—where these old patterns live.
Through gentle yet powerful sessions, hypnotherapy can:
Unwind the programming of people pleasing and fear of visibility
Build subconscious permission to take up space unapologetically
Rewire the inner voice to be compassionate, fierce, and true
Heal the emotional wounds that trained you to shrink
Activate your authentic identity not the “good girl,” but the whole woman
When you’re in hypnosis, your brain enters a theta state—the same state where childhood memories, inner narratives, and identity are formed. That means we can plant new seeds of empowerment, confidence, and sovereignty from the inside out. BOOK HERE to begin your healing journey.
How to Begin Rising Anyway
You don’t need to scream.
You don’t need to burn it all down.
But you can begin by:
Saying no without explaining (no is a full sentence)
Saying yes to your own joy
Taking one small brave action today
Booking that healing session
Writing yourself a permission slip to be all of you
Because breaking the spell isn’t about rebellion.
It’s about returning to your truth, your worth, and your wild, radiant power.
Ready to book your session and break the Good Girl Spell? Click HERE
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Tune in to the Flip That Script podcast, where my best friend and fellow clinical hypnotherapist, Dana, and I delve into the subconscious patterns that hold us back and explore how to reclaim your power, your voice, and your whole magic.
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